This past weekend she was invited to a 16th birthday party. In my uncool way, I managed to make all things bad!
The big decision related to whether to stay the night at a friends house or to have me pick her up, since she can't drive after 10pm on a restricted.
We discussed options-
"okay, if you pick me up, I can drink" -what??? where??? when?? Who said anything about drinking????
"What were you planning to drink?" Cool, non-judgemental, as if THAT was going to happen!!!
"Well, the other kids will be drinking but if I stay at Courtney's, I will have to drive to rowing in the morning, so I won't be able to drink" Where is this logic coming from??
"how much were you planning to drink?"
"you know that MUM! you told me I could have 1 beer" that is true but I had thought she would be at least 35 when that happened!!
"So, (relying on earlier logic) you won't be able to drink if you have to drive to rowing in the morning (that whole 1 beer) so what would you like to do?"
" Well...... if you come and get me, what time will you come?"
"That is easy, the invitation says it finishes at 11.30."
" That doesn't mean you come at 11.30!!"
"In my world it does!!!!" What is it with kids and time and good manners????
"okay" comes the reply.... " I think I would be better to stay at Courtney's" BINGO, BULLS EYE and other celebrationery statements!! Sensible parents collecting her, no drinking because she has to drive the next day and less worry for me about collecting her from the other side of town at close to midnight. Also- I won't be the uncool parent who arrives at the right time to collect her!!!
"so" I say, based on earlier teenage logic "you won't be able to have that 1 beer because you have to drive to rowing in the morning and the restricted license is now zero alcohol"
" I KNOW Mum!! Do you think I don't understand these things?"
I love and value the innocence and know it won't be forever but bless the seriousness of my child!
The big decision related to whether to stay the night at a friends house or to have me pick her up, since she can't drive after 10pm on a restricted.
We discussed options-
"okay, if you pick me up, I can drink" -what??? where??? when?? Who said anything about drinking????
"What were you planning to drink?" Cool, non-judgemental, as if THAT was going to happen!!!
"Well, the other kids will be drinking but if I stay at Courtney's, I will have to drive to rowing in the morning, so I won't be able to drink" Where is this logic coming from??
"how much were you planning to drink?"
"you know that MUM! you told me I could have 1 beer" that is true but I had thought she would be at least 35 when that happened!!
"So, (relying on earlier logic) you won't be able to drink if you have to drive to rowing in the morning (that whole 1 beer) so what would you like to do?"
" Well...... if you come and get me, what time will you come?"
"That is easy, the invitation says it finishes at 11.30."
" That doesn't mean you come at 11.30!!"
"In my world it does!!!!" What is it with kids and time and good manners????
"okay" comes the reply.... " I think I would be better to stay at Courtney's" BINGO, BULLS EYE and other celebrationery statements!! Sensible parents collecting her, no drinking because she has to drive the next day and less worry for me about collecting her from the other side of town at close to midnight. Also- I won't be the uncool parent who arrives at the right time to collect her!!!
"so" I say, based on earlier teenage logic "you won't be able to have that 1 beer because you have to drive to rowing in the morning and the restricted license is now zero alcohol"
" I KNOW Mum!! Do you think I don't understand these things?"
I love and value the innocence and know it won't be forever but bless the seriousness of my child!
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